October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, a time when education and support for those affected by the disease are in the spotlight. One of the most challenging aspects for individuals facing a breast cancer diagnosis is often how to discuss it with their children.
A study conducted by Macmillan Cancer Support revealed that a significant number of individuals diagnosed with cancer expressed fears about not being there for their families (35%) and the daunting task of informing their children about the diagnosis (26%). Sally Kum, associate director of nursing and health information at Breast Cancer Now, highlights the common concern many have about discussing breast cancer with their children, emphasising the importance of finding the right approach.
Kum mentions that each family will have its unique way of handling such conversations, taking into account the child’s age, their level of understanding about cancer, and the family’s background. She stresses the significance of building trust with children by being open and honest with them, even if they may not fully comprehend the situation.
Sian Robinson-Brown, a cancer information and support service knowledge specialist at Macmillan Cancer Support, acknowledges the natural inclination to shield children from distressing news but advises that initiating a conversation is the initial step in a continual process of providing information and reassurance.
Experts offer valuable advice on effectively communicating a breast cancer diagnosis to children:
1. Initiate the conversation yourself in a comfortable setting.
2. Plan ahead and decide how to frame the discussion.
3. Allow children’s questions to guide the discussion.
4. Encourage open communication and address any misconceptions.
5. Use age-appropriate language and focus on the present situation.
6. Reinforce positive messages and involve children in supportive actions.
7. Tailor the discussion based on a child’s age, especially with very young children.
8. Correct any misunderstandings with older children and involve them in the conversation.
9. Provide teenagers with detailed information and guide them to reliable resources.
10. Consider informing teachers and other parents to offer support to your children.
Breast Cancer Now helpline: 0808 800 6000
Macmillan Cancer Support line: 0808 808 0000
Breast Cancer Awareness Month serves as a reminder of the importance of open and honest communication within families facing a cancer diagnosis, ensuring that children are included in the journey with understanding and support.