A man in his 30s recently engaged to his girlfriend of two years seeks advice from Dear Coleen regarding his interfering mum’s disapproval of his fiancee. He describes his mum as always being overly involved in his life and now interfering in his relationship, causing distress to his fiancee. While his mum has never directly said so, he feels she believes his fiancee is not good enough for him, citing her past experiences such as a previous marriage, broken engagement, and frequent job changes. Despite his mum’s disapproval, he loves his fiancee’s outspoken and down-to-earth nature.
Dear Coleen advises the man to consider his mum’s behaviour from a perspective of fearing losing him, acknowledging that as her only son, there may be unconscious envy from her towards his fiancee. Coleen suggests addressing the issue directly with his mum, expressing his love for his fiancee and desire for her support. She encourages him to stand up for his fiancee and focus on the positivity surrounding their upcoming marriage. Coleen believes that with time, his mum may come to accept and support the relationship.
The advice column concludes with a reminder to focus on the joy and positivity of the wedding planning, as well as reassurance that in time, his mum may overcome her disapproval and embrace the union. Dear Coleen offers support and encouragement for the man to address the situation with his mum, emphasizing the importance of standing up for his fiancee and the happiness they share together.